You got a new job. Found your first love. Got married. Broke up. Got a divorce. Had a baby. Graduated. Moved across the country. Lost a loved one. Made a huge career shift. Or, you simply had a major life transition that knocked you off of your feet and you know you need support.
This can be tricky! What do you need right now? Who do you need right now? What is actually helpful or useful right now when it feels like everything you used to know and count on is just…wobbly, at best? If the “new” is good and exciting, you might feel like you are Bambi, learning how to walk for the first time, on wobbly and uncertain legs. If this new season of your life is less pleasant, you may feel like you’re trapped in the eye of a hurricane. The wind and storm are raging around you. You’ve come through one round of terrible weather and violent winds, but you’re just sure another wave will hit any moment.
Cultivate Your Crew
This is exactly why you need a deep, diverse crew. People to help you in all areas of that transition. Your mood, your needs, and your wants are going to change throughout this new chapter. While one person in your life may have a couple of these qualities, you should truly have a group of people you know you can count on. Of course, they don’t have to fit these exact roles. But, you should consider which elements of support you honestly need. Who in your life meets that most closely? Then, keep that person in your orbit. Allow yourself to enjoy reaching out to that person, instead of feeling like a bummer or a burden. Establish trust and security in the connection. Then, think about who else you need. Keep moving through each of your must-have networks of support and gather accordingly. You are worth it. And, quite frankly, people do love and care about you. You just have to let them.
The 6 C’s You Need in Your Corner During Times of Change
Exactly who she sounds like. This person is ready to support you, lift you up and cheer you on. She’s got your back, 100%. You may forget that you’re amazing, but she will not let you forget it for long.
This friend is ready with the witty banter, a self-deprecating joke, or a quippy one-liner to lift your spirits when things get too heavy. You can always count on this friend to come through with some healthy humor to remind you things won’t always be this big.
Yes. We need this person! This friend gives you the dose of negative energy to remind you that your outlook could always be worse. No toxic positivity here, just good old-fashioned cynicism and general distrust for the world around them. You know you don’t believe all of it all the time, but it can be cathartic to let yourself get a little doom-and-gloom for a moment or two.
If you are really lucky, your mom, sister, cousin, aunt, or incredible neighbor is already filling this role for you. If not, you’ve got a friend or other family member checking in to make sure your basic needs are being met and you haven’t totally gone into isolation. This person is basically ensuring those bottom two sections of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs are solid. If you can’t get yourself together, they will hold you up and keep you functional until you can.
Come on. You knew this one was coming! Maybe you have a close friend to confide in, with sage wisdom and advice. But, if not, I would love to talk with you about how to get that groove back. We can talk about codependency, perfectionism, relationship therapy for one, or anything else that has you feeling a bit uneasy about this major life change. Having an objective third party to help hold your stress and worry is life-changing. Trust me.
This person has a very special role in your life journey. They have to ensure you gave the tools, language, courage, and confidence to stay afloat during this life transition. They cheer you on, while also ensuring you don’t misstep too badly along the way. You can count on this coach to be there for you, even when you fail or fall. We get back up and try again, right? That’s what any great coach wants to see! Speaking of great coaches, I would love to talk with you about possibilities! No matter where you are in the world, if you want to make changes, I can be your coach.
Consider Working with Enid via Online Therapy in Florida or Coaching for Women
As always, I would love to support you. If you are a woman in Florida needing a therapist, let’s talk! Though I’m based out of my therapy practice in Miramar, FL, I can actually help you wherever you are via online therapy in Florida. Let’s talk about what life looks like when you practice strong, healthy boundaries!
Outside of Florida, but still needing support to live your best, most authentic life? Let’s talk about how I may be able to help you through empowerment coaching for women! Check out the rest of my therapy blog for resources, thoughts, and additional self-care tools. I’m here for you and your journey to a more fulfilling and beautiful life.
Other Services Offered at Counseling Solutions of Broward:
Enid De Jesus offers a variety of mental health services for women at her counseling clinic in Broward County, FL. Her goal is to create lasting transformative change and growth in your life. So, she offers anxiety treatment, depression treatment, counseling for imposter syndrome, after divorce counseling, relationship counseling for one, and co-dependency treatment. For more information on counseling, please check out her what to expect page or contact her counseling office.