You’re sitting in your monthly staff meeting when your supervisor, Beth, asks for new ideas to boost the business. Your heart starts to race, your hands feel clammy, and you shuffle papers around while your face begins to flush thinking “Please, don’t call on me.”
Your team shares some of their thoughts and you think, “WOW! He’s so smart. Why didn’t I think of that?”
And then the voice in the back of your mind starts its NEVER ENDING playlist. “I don’t belong here. I never would have come up with that on my own. You’re not smart enough. Why did they even hire me? I’m not cut out for this. They’re going to fire me when they realize how much of a FRAUD and clearly unqualified I am.”
With all that racket in your head, you realize that Beth is now staring STRAIGHT at you. You mumble some thought that you had the other week, while the voice whispers “Why’d you even SAY THAT? That’s so stupid!”
The meeting ends and your bestie, Jess, beelines to walk out with you. She gushes, “OMG! That was so brilliant! Beth loved your idea, it’ll totally transform…” As soon as you hear her compliments your thoughts drown her out. They tell you a hundred reasons why it’ll never work, you shouldn’t have even opened your mouth, and while is Jess being so nice and praising that BS I just said? It’s just because she’s my friend. I know everybody hated it.
The rest of your day you spend hours on a simple task that should have taken thirty minutes just because you want to make sure it’s PERFECT. You’ve already triple-checked it, but you’re sure it’s missing that one thing that will give you up as a FAKE. They’ll find out just how inferior you really are and decide to stop wasting their money on you.
Finally, you pack up two hours after everyone else has gone home… like a normal person. You get home and start scrolling through your newsfeed and insta-stories comparing your life to your old school friends.
They have the best lives, high-profile jobs, the ring, house, cute kids and the list goes on and on. They blast their success like how Ashely went to her boss and asked for a raise…and got it. Or Mariella’s new bakery business which is KILLING IT! You want that, but the voice creeps in, “You don’t deserve it. You’re not good enough. You’ll never make it on your own.”
As you lay in bed the racing thoughts invade again. Keeping you on the brink of sleep, not allowing you any rest. In your fitful, sleep you dream of a life in which you’re confident, bold and speak your mind without a second thought or ounce of doubt.
Problem is… you’re absolutely PARALYZED. You can’t think of a way past it, but you’re desperate to step into the life you imagined. There’s a way past what you’re feeling right now, and I can navigate you through the journey.
“Compare where you are to where you want to be, and you’ll get nowhere.”
~ Sara Bareilles
It’s time to take off the MASK. The one that:
- You’ve carefully cultivated to show the world just how perfect and wonderful you and your life are.
- You’re TERRIFIED someone else was going to tear off and expose you.
- You old onto like a security blanket because without it you’d be completely vulnerable.
There is a power in inviting others into your inner world, you just haven’t found the people to do that with yet. You don’t have to keep all those plates spinning on your own, let me share the burden with you. There is a world, another life, where you are exactly YOU.
REAL TALK: Research estimates approximately 70% of people in the U.S. have experienced imposter syndrome at least once in their life.
Listen, the future you is calling, she says:
“It’s time to cut the crap.”
To stop letting those self-deprecating and negative thoughts run the show. To start accepting the praise bestowed upon you.
She knows that with the right help you can:
- Put the voices in their place and start handing out EVICTION
- Get up and brush yourself off so you can KEEP IT MOVING even if the coals are lit and you’re scared as hell.
- Develop strategies to GIVE YOUR MIND A BREAK long enough to figure out your next move.
- Build your CHEER SQUAD for when those vermin are harder to shake.
- Learn how to ACCEPT and INTERNALIZE the praise of your adoring fans.
- Hone your SIXTH SENSE to know when enough IS enough and it’s time to LET GO.
So, you can finally let go of all the ridiculousness getting in the way of drinks with the girls, accepting that date with the hottie you met last week or going to your nephew’s soccer game.
Our work will remind you that you can because guess what?
You have BEFORE, and you will AGAIN!