You’re sitting in your monthly staff meeting when your supervisor, Beth asks for new ideas to boost business. Your heart starts to race, your hands feel clammy, and you shuffle papers around while your face begins to flush thinking “please, don’t call on me.”
Your colleague some of their thoughts and you think, “WOW! She’s so smart. Why didn’t I think of that?”
And then the voice in the back of your mind starts its NEVER ENDING playlist. “I don’t belong here. I never would have come up with that on my own. I’m not smart enough. Why did they even hire me? I’m not cut out for this. They’re going to fire me when they realize how much of a FRAUD and clearly unqualified I am.”
With all that racket in your head, you realize that your supervisor is staring straight at you. You mumble some thought that you had the other week, while the voice whispers “why’d you even say that? It’s so STUPID!”
When You Have Imposter Syndrome, You Can’t Accept Compliments
The meeting ends and your work bestie, Jess beelines to walk out with you. She gushes, “OMG! That idea is so brilliant! Beth loved it! It will totally get us more business!” As soon as you hear her compliments your negative thoughts drown her out with a hundred reasons why it’ll never work. “Ugh, you shouldn’t have even opened your mouth. Now, Jess is being nice and praising that BS I just said? It’s just because she’s my friend. I know everybody hated it.”
The rest of your day you spend hours on a simple task that should have taken thirty minutes. You just want to make sure it’s PERFECT. You’ve triple-checked your work, but you’re sure it’s missing something. If someone catches your mistake, they’ll know you’re a FAKE! They’ll find out just how inferior you really are. Then, they’ll fire you.
No Matter Where You Are, You’re Negative Voice is ALWAYS There Keeping You Down
Finally, you pack up two hours after everyone else has gone home… like a normal person. You get home. Then, you start scrolling through your newsfeed and Insta-stories. You spend hours COMPARING your life with your old school friends.
They have the best lives, high-profile jobs, a diamond ring, house, cute kids, and the list goes on and on. They blast their success for all to see. Just like how Ashely went to her boss and asked for a raise…and got it. Or Mariella’s new bakery business which is KILLING IT! You want that too. But, then your mean inner voice speaks up, “You don’t deserve it. You’re not good enough. You’ll never make it on your own.”
As you lay in bed the racing thoughts invade your mind once again. They keep you on the brink of sleep, not allowing you any rest. In your fitful sleep, you dream of a life in which you’re confident, bold, and speak your mind without a second thought or ounce of doubt.
The problem is… you’re absolutely PARALYZED. You can’t think of a way past these feelings, but you’re desperate to step into the life you want. There’s a way past what you’re feeling right now, and I can navigate you through the journey in therapy.
“Compare where you are to where you want to be, and you’ll get nowhere.”
~ Sara Bareilles
Learn How to Get Rid of Imposter Syndrome in Therapy
It’s time to take off the MASK. The one that:
- You’ve carefully cultivated to show the world just how perfect and wonderful your life is.
- You’re TERRIFIED someone would tear off and expose you as a fake.
- You hold onto like a security blanket because without it you’d be completely vulnerable.
There is a power in inviting others into your inner world. You just haven’t found the people to do that with yet. You don’t have to keep all those plates spinning on your own. Let me share the burden with you. There is a world, another life, where you are exactly YOU.
Imposter Syndrome is Painful, but Therapy Can Help You Overcome the Negative Self-Talk
REAL TALK: Research estimates approximately 70% of people in the U.S. have experienced imposter syndrome at least once in their life.
Your self-doubt is getting in the way of you enjoying the things you’ve worked so hard for. But, counseling for imposter syndrome focuses on helping you change your relationship with your thoughts. You’ll work with your therapist to examine your thoughts. Then, you’ll learn to hold your thoughts more lightly and think of things in a different way. As you move through counseling, you’ll begin to have more CONFIDENCE in yourself, because YOU ROCK! You’ll be able to speak your mind and know the POSITIVE IMPACT you are having on the world around you!
You have worked hard and you deserve to FEEL GOOD about everything you’ve achieved. Counseling can help!
Listen, the future you is calling, she says: It’s time to cut the crap! Stop letting those self-deprecating and negative thoughts run the show. To start accepting the praise bestowed upon you.
With the right Florida therapist for imposter syndrome, you can:
- Put those negative voices in their place and start handing out EVICTION NOTICES
- Get up and brush yourself off. KEEP IT MOVING even if the coals are lit and you’re scared as hell.
- Develop strategies to GIVE YOUR MIND A BREAK long enough to figure out your next move.
- Build your CHEER SQUAD for when those terrible voices are harder to shake.
- Learn how to ACCEPT and INTERNALIZE the praise of your adoring fans.
- Hone your SIXTH SENSE to know when enough is enough. Learn when it is time to LET IT GO.
So, you can finally let go of all the ridiculousness getting in the way of living your life. You can go for drinks with the girls, or accept that date with the hottie you met last week! You can finally live your life again.
Our work will remind you that you can because guess what? You have BEFORE, and you will AGAIN!
Begin Therapy for Imposter Syndrome With Enid De Jesus:
Don’t let your evil inner voice keep you from living a life you love! In therapy, you can learn the tools to overcome these self-deprecating thoughts and learn to accept your greatness. Because guess what? YOU ROCK! To begin therapy in Miramar, FL, please follow these three steps:
Contact Counseling Solutions of Boward and choose a time to have your free 20-minute consultation,
Meet with Enid for a consultation call. During this time, you will get to know her and you will learn what to expect in therapy for imposter syndrome
Begin therapy for imposter syndrome and find peace from your nagging inner voice!