First comes love, then comes marriage, then somewhere along the line it all goes wrong and you’re left wondering what in the world just happened. Is that where you are right now? Why you’re reading this? Let me guess…You followed all the rules. You did everything “right”. The right order, the right timing of things, […]

Summer is in full swing. For some mommas, this means a carefully crafted schedule of summer school, sitters, activities, and camps. For others, it means the kids are out of school and you are now full-time care until Fall. Or, you may find yourself somewhere in the middle. No matter where your summer schedule falls, […]

“How is it possible that everyone in my life is an idiot?”  When I’m being a petty micro-manager, then I know I need something. I need sleep. I need a break. Honestly, it means I’m not handling my professional boundaries appropriately. Professional Boundaries are Healthy: Codependency, resentment, and “powering through” are not. Yes. It is […]

We’ve been talking about boundaries. And, now we’re going to discuss sexual boundaries. Holy moly. Are we really going to go there? Yes. Yes, we are. This is a topic that is all too often glossed over, tiptoed around, or simply ignored altogether. Not only should we be having this conversation from an earlier age, […]

Why. Why is this SO hard? You’re successful. You are an independent, strong, and brilliant woman! For goodness sake….you are a grown-up! What in the world happens when we are with our families that throws us into this “time machine” of a boundary mess? Sometimes, the family systems we’ve grown up with simply don’t want […]

Here is the line. Now, hold the line. Finally, do not let anyone cross the line. Easy, right? Boundary Setting: Easy? Sure. On the surface, boundary-setting, communication, and management sound like a simple, straightforward thing. However, some of us have been raised in a family or community system where boundaries were not clearly taught or […]

Grumpy mornings. Pushed deadlines. Missed texts. Unreturned voicemails. Getting sick. Feeling tired. Spilling. Breaking. Breaking down. These are all normal human experiences. As I noted earlier, having compassion for yourself means that you honor and accept your humanness. Yes. You are not, in fact, Wonder Woman. Or Supergirl. Nor do you have to be perfect. […]

Have you ever had a well-meaning friend or family member say something like “you’re being too hard on yourself” or “quit beating yourself up about it.” Well, what they’re trying to tell you is to practice self-compassion. As women, we tend to be extremely compassionate towards others who are struggling or going through tough times. […]

I work with women all over Florida who are dealing with divorce. Or, a significant breakup. These women are strong. Capable. Professional. Successful. And, hurting. Divorce recovery counseling is a big deal. It’s a long, often painful process. In therapy, we are working through grief, loss, betrayal, guilt, shame, blame, confidence, boundaries, trauma, anxiety, depression, […]

“Put yourself out there!” “It’ll be fun, just give it a try!” “You don’t know until you do it!” “It’s not going to be as bad as you think.” “That’s how my [insert any random woman they know] found her husband!” Sound familiar? Our friends and family are well-meaning. They love us. They want us […]